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Authenticity Does Not Mean You Get To Say Whatever You Want

Authenticity without emotional intelligence is just unchecked ego.

Authenticity has become a bit of a buzzword—everyone is using it, but not always in the right way.

It’s thrown around as a badge of honor, a marketing hook, or even an excuse for saying whatever comes to mind, regardless of the impact. But true authenticity isn’t about being blunt for the sake of it, demanding acceptance without accountability, or using “this is just who I am” as a free pass for unfiltered behavior.

It’s not an excuse for being rude. It’s not a shield for reckless words. And it’s certainly not an invitation to disregard the impact you have on those around you.

Somewhere along the way, the term “authenticity” got hijacked. Now, we see people justifying inexcusable behavior under the guise of “being real.”

Here's what it's not:

Authenticity does NOT mean you get to say whatever you want, however you want, without regard for others.

It’s not an excuse for being rude. It’s not a shield for reckless words. And it’s certainly not an invitation to disregard the impact you have on those around you.

If your version of authenticity involves belittling others, speaking without tact, or constantly cussing to make a point… It’s time to ask yourself, is that truly the depth of your self-expression?

Or is it a lack of emotional intelligence, creativity, and self-awareness?

What it is about:

It’s about alignment. Alignment with your values, your integrity, and the impact you want to have on the world.

Being authentic means:

Speaking your truth in a way that reflects what you stand for—not just saying whatever comes to mind.

Owning your voice while respecting others—not staying silent or talking over people.

Leading with confidence and purpose—not just trying to prove a point.

Authenticity doesn’t require you to be loud or shocking to be heard. The most powerful voices are the ones that command attention not by volume, but by depth.

I shared my thoughts on this in an Authority Magazine interview about how authenticity and vulnerability pay off both personally and professionally. And here’s the what I learned: Authenticity without emotional intelligence is just unchecked ego.

So, next time someone tells you they’re just “being authentic” while tearing others down, consider:

Are they being honest, or just avoiding responsibility for their actions?

Are they staying true to their values, or just using ‘authenticity’ to justify being disrespectful?

Are they making a real difference, or just making noise to get attention?

If your version of authenticity causes more harm than connection, maybe it’s time to redefine what it really means.

Real authenticity isn’t just about being heard—it’s about being understood and respected. It’s not about demanding space, but about owning it with intention. And it’s not about saying whatever comes to mind, but about communicating in a way that reflects your values and the impact you want to make.

So, the next time you choose to “keep it real,” ask yourself: Are you standing in your truth—or just using authenticity as an excuse to avoid growth?

If you want more insights, actionable tips, or personalized guidance on building a brand and leadership style that truly aligns with your values, and see your career or business soar, let’s connect, reach me here on Linkedin.

Hi, I'm Rachana Adyanthaya

Founder of CR8MYCHANGE

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